Had I read the following essay in middle school, my teen years would have been much less of an ordeal. If you know a kid or a teacher or a parent, send them this: Why Nerds Are Unpopular by Paul Graham. Thanks to Dav for the tip.
This is a very interesting perspective. My one observation is that the author gives adults too much credit. Many more of them are still stuck with an adolescent world view where popularity is more important than substance.